Posted on : 19-08-2010 | By : dianne | In : Online Dating
With online dating, what are good things to look for in profiles to avoid people who aren’t looking for long-term relationships?
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Generally speaking, it’s impossible for you to filter them out at the very beginning, or even before meeting face to face. Ya know, guys are quite dishonest and intelligent too.
Some dating sites did this work for users. As the moderators, they have the full info of all users, and they can remove any profiles if they are suspected. I’m on wealthychats.com and I feel they did a good job on this aspect. That’s the reason I’d stay with them, not other dating sites.
be very careful not to find someone who knows all the right words to say, they can be very smooth operators, remember many of those people have been on those sites for years and take advantage of their dates/lovers and use them up and move onto the next victim.
make sure your date has had a reliable job for awhile before deciding to hook up with them.
make sure the person you decide to date from those sites doesn’t have a criminal record from all the states they lived in prior.
as for checking out their photo, looks can be deceiving, they could have a picture of dog with them but they don’t own that dog.
many of the players know exactly how to hunt for kind souls.
just make sure you know all about his/her family background before getting too involved please
Well, I have done the online dating"thing" and ran into some real idiots. I always started out with email communication, I never talked to much on the phone in the beginning or met up with them.
You can tell alot about a person by the words they use or experiences they have had. So ask them questions in their emails based on the simple statements they have made without getting real nosey. Dont be afraid of asking questions ever we all deserve the truth.Be honest with them and tell them whats up. Take things as they come. I will say this. Alot of online daters are looking for LT relationships. Or at least thats what i found.
Dont expect much in the beginning, and date a few people, its sort of promising that way. You can weed in and weed out that way.
Good luck keep your head up and remember follow your gut instincts
No.1 tip is call them at random times at home and at work – if they are a player or married, they either won’t give you these numbers, or they’ll sound furtive when you phone them.
As for the profiles themselves :
1. Only respond to those with pics – preferably a number, not just one taken in good light ten years ago LOL. If they also put on there pics of their dog, children and granny, you can be pretty sure they actually have those, and are straight guys! Any sign of a Porsche or Ferrari – avoid!
2. Read the profile carefully and try to read between the lines. Some guys will actually say what they are looking for (but sadly some will lie) and most you can guess.
3. In general, the older the man, the less likely he is to be a player.
4. The best prospects are widowers, and those that are recently divorced, as they obviously believed in marriage (especially if it wasn’t their fault the marriage broke down). Even better, if they have kids living with them, you can be pretty sure they aren’t looking to play the field, but will be pretty desperate for a mummy replacement!
5. Avoid those profiles where the statements seem to have been written by a ten year old on speed with a penchant for blind date quotes!
6. Choose a guy who is less than handsome, or who looks a bit sad….
7. Before you meet them, try googling their name, and check out Facebook etc – you’d be surprised what comes up, especially that court case three years ago!
Hope this helps
oh god! are you that desperate?
Make sure his loyal to you, and that he loves you for how your personality is and not your body or your looks, continue talking on the phone more often but never be too clingy, guys don’t like that, have fun with friends and don’t always check your phone for a text, if you trust him, he’ll be thinking of you the whole time and text you more while his with friends, and if your lucky he’ll even talk to his friends about you, and call you while his friends are around. but be casual, not clingy.. never let a guy bring you down, since you are far away, just go along with it, and have fun.
Good luck
No idea, I got so fed up with game players and Walter Mitty types that I now avoid dating sites as though they were a plague!
Nudity would be a start! lol. Make sure there pictures are conservative. Try to look for someone who says on there pro they would like a relationship. You’ll usually tell from the way they talk to you also….if they are being really forward, chances are they only want one thing. If they ask alot about you and seem interested
Then good luck baby. xx