I borrowed his computer since he was going on vacation, it works better and has this game installed thats my favorite. The night before he had to leave, he said he had to check something on it, i wasn’t paying attention because it was late and i was tired. He said he was on amazon looking for a DVD we wanted to get. I thought it was weird he needed to do that then. But the next day im on the compter and decide to look at his pictures and then find a folder of alot of girls and a couple of porn pics in the recycle bin. This shocked me so much because he has always said i will only love you, i don’t care about anyone else, and stuff like that. Some of the pictures were revealing, some were just normal, but seemed to only have "hot" girls and i even found one of my sister. I recognized most of the girls, and none seem like they were any of his close friends, and some i didn’t recognize maybe some of this ex’s i have no idea. He bought the computer last summer, which is also when we were dating so these cant be something he had awhile ago and then forgot about. I know i sholdn’t be snopping in his stuff, but he deleted it right before he gave it to me so he obviously didn’t want me to see it. How do I bring this up to him? I can’t just let this go, there’s no reason for him to have pictures of other girls on this computer. I can somewhat understand the porn but of other girls, like at parties and stuff taken off facebook, especially of people i know is hurtful.
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I been dating this girl not to long. She was suppose to move in with me on sunday, well her mom said she could but since she been in jail recently changed her opinion on that. Her phone got taken by her moms bf cuz of it, and she cant get on computer. She was worried that would say she couldn’t come and visit me…she was worried about it. Should I mail her a letter, telling her how much she means to me and I care about her. tomorrows our anniversary.

I personally say a SHE. because any small mistake is stored in her memory forever. Only her creator understands her and three, You have to keep buying accessories for her to stay up to date

I have been dating this girl for about 6 months now and the other day i was on her computer cleaning it up and removing viruses and i noticed that skype was minimized. When I maximized the window it was the conversations she had with her ex. I soon found out that 2 1/2 months into the relationship she not only still had feelings for him but also "fantasies" about him… She says she is over him but they still talk back and forth, I really like her and i just don’t know what to do.

well there’s so many dating websites but which one’s actually work and are not run by a computer??????????????????

I first want to preface by saying that I am insecure, but not crazy. I understand guys look at porn, and naked pictures of models. Those I understand. I am not okay with him looking at pictures of girls from facebook looking like sluts.

So basically, I have a hard time trusting my boyfriend of 2 years, but only when it comes to the computer. I know in person he wouldn’t flirt or take home anyone or anything like. One reason is because of his password. I understand the need for privacy, but he knows mine, and it has been two years, so what gives. Also, When I ask about what he is hiding, he immediately takes me to his computer and we look at everything together and he shows me he is hiding nothing. I guess I worry because I met him online and I fear that he is looking at other girls to find someone better. The second reason is because of the pictures I found on his computer. We moved in together after a year of dating, and one night I got super drunk and super crazy and he wasn’t home and I got so curious, so I took his external hard drive and made it so I could access it on my computer, since I didn’t know his password. On it I found tons of pictures of girls he dated. Not naked, but just slutty ones, and tons of his ex-girlfriend.When I approached him about it, he simply deleted them and told me they were from before he met me and I shouldn’t worry. Then he asked if I was mad because of his ex-girlfriend’s naked pictures. You see, about 3 months into our relationship I had taken naked pictures for him, when he said "no ones ever done this for me before". I was trying to be cool. He clearly lied to me about this. I didn’t actually see any naked pictures of his ex on his external hard drive so I wonder where they are. He claims he deleted them. It has been a year of wondering whether or not he flirts online or to put it bluntly, what pictures he jacks off to. He claims he only uses mine, etc etc. What do I believe? Please help! Why would he hide stuff from me if he loves me? I’m tired of the secrecy, and if he would just trust me to have his password, I actually would never look at his stuff. I don’t know what else to do.

When we first started dating, I stumbled across some provocative pictures of him and his ex. I confronted him about it and he deleted them immediately. But he still has all the pictures of past events and fun times with her from when they were dating. Do you think this is acceptable for him to keep or do you believe that pictures of exes (no matter what the subject matter) should be deleted when you start a long term relationship with someone?

Say what you want, but I don’t mind my husband of 11years to look at porn, because I do too! but I what is the deal with dating sites????????? I’m too sexy for this! I can have any guy!! I don’t mind role play, trying different positions, we have $ex regularly……..I DON’T GET IT!! I may not be the best house keeper, but the kitchen and bedroom are my specialties. He always walks away from those rooms satified……..or so it seems.

I don’t see how he could be bored, but what do you guys think? Is this normal? Why do guys do this?? Fellas, give me the scoop about those sites…EXPECIALLY FOR A MARRIED GUY!!

I guess I was rambling and forget to get to the point LOL! I look on the history on our computer and seen that he has been going to dating sites. I just don’t understand………….
Lucy- that is a good point about the popups because that has happened to me also. And I don’t know if he has a profile, but I know the sites are there.

Found Pics Of Other Girls and Porn.

I borrowed his computer since he was going on vacation, it works better and has this game installed already thats my favorite. The night before he had to leave, he said he had to check something on it, i wasn’t paying attention because it was late and i was tired. He said he was on amazon looking for a DVD we wanted to get. I thought it was weird he needed to do that then. But the next day im on the compter and decide to look at his pictures and then find a folder of a picture of girls, some porn kind of pics in the recycle bin. This shocked me so much because he has always said i will only love you, i don’t care about anyone else, and stuff like that. Some of the pictures were revealing, some were just normal, but seemed to only have "hot" girls and i even found one of my sister. He bought the computer last summer, which is also when we were dating so these cant be something he had awhile ago and then forgot about. I know i sholdn’t be snopping in his stuff, but he deleted it right before he gave it to me so he obviously didn’t want me to see it. How do I bring this up to him? I can’t just let this go, there’s no reason for him to have pictures of other girls on this computer. I can somewhat understand the porn but of other girls, like at parties and stuff taken off facebook, especially of people i know is hurtful and unnecessary.
Please Help!!

I borrowed his computer since he was going on vacation, it works better and has this game installed already thats my favorite. The night before he had to leave, he said he had to check something on it, i wasn’t paying attention because it was late and i was tired. He said he was on amazon looking for a DVD we wanted to get. I thought it was weird he needed to do that then. But the next day im on the compter and decide to look at his pictures and then find a folder of a picture of girls, some porn kind of pics in the recycle bin. This shocked me so much because he has always said i will only love you, i don’t care about anyone else, and stuff like that. Some of the pictures were revealing, some were just normal, but seemed to only have "hot" girls and i even found one of my sister. He bought the computer last summer, which is also when we were dating so these cant be something he had awhile ago and then forgot about. I know i sholdn’t be snopping in his stuff, but he deleted it right before he gave it to me so he obviously didn’t want me to see it. How do I bring this up to him? I can’t just let this go, there’s no reason for him to have pictures of other girls on this computer. I can somewhat understand the porn but of other girls, like at parties and stuff taken off facebook, especially of people i know is hurtful and unnecessary.
Please Help!!