Posted on : 01-09-2010 | By : dianne | In : Computer Dating
Oh and one of the questions was are you married and he put in other. Heck I would date him if his profile was really as wonderful as he claimed. I am beside myself on this one cause he lied and said it wasn’t him. I said oh really who was it the computer fairy? Ok folks what would you do together now 11 years.
I have a feeling this isn’t the first time there have been trust issues in your relationship. Am I right? Has he lied in the past about other women or flirting or anything inappropriate? Trust is so important in a relationship. It’s not just trust – it’s about honesty and respect. This man gave you neither of those things so now you face a choice. If this is a habit of his (lying, cheating, etc), then it may be time to leave. If this is the first time, I would seek marriage counseling and try to work on any issues in the relationship. If he does lie alot and you do decide to stay, I would only do so if he agreed to counseling. Marriage takes work even on a good day but a marriage wrecked by infidelity, lies, or betrayal need it even more. And it takes BOTH you of being willing to work. If he’s not willing to put in the time or effort of counseling, then I’d be pretty tempted to walk.
Personally id find it increadibly halarious but thats just me. Tell him to take it down or at least put that hes married
Maybe you just aren’t attractive enough for him?
If so, I think you might have to let that sexy man free to graze in greener pastures.
You must make him pay for his stupidity. Make him go to a marriage councilor.
Maybe you have sex less than once a week?
Divorce him. He is looking to cheat and he may promise you he will never do it again but do you honestly believe him?
How did you see his profile? Are you on the same dating site? It sounds like he’s unhappy. You should think about seeing councilor, but if you’re both unhappy you may be headed for a divorce.
Create a fake profile on this site and hook up from there. Ask him to meet-up some where after a few chats. Next, park in an adjacent parking lot where he can’t see you and wait for him to show up. Don’t meet him. Go home and send an email saying you couldn’t make and set up another date and confront him the second time. If he doesn’t show up for the first hookup, it probably isn’t him. I wouldn’t have said anything about this to him until I caught him trying to hookup with somebody. Hope this helps.
wow- that’s funny. anyways i would have made one up and seen how far he would have went..
I’m so sorry. If he’s not willing to take that down and go to a marriage counselor then you shouldn’t waste any more of your life with him. I guess you still need to assess how bad it is. Think about when he’s gone our without you, business trips, secret purchases, etc. You can’t fix what you don’t acknowledge.
Don’t put up with anything. Although some marriages are stronger after an affair because they deal with their problems, don’t be a door mat either.
Good luck.
Sounds like bad news. I mean, he is married and has no reason to be on an online dating service. If I were you, I would have a serious, long talk with him about this. You said you two had been together for 11 years and thats a while to be together. I would find out why he felt the need to go to an online dating service in the first place when he has you. Then, I would make a decision from there.
Put yourself on that dating service and see how he reacts.
Honey I hate to break it to you..where there’s smoke there’s fire. Most first time cheaters are scared and go with someone they think is ‘safe’. This probably isn’t the first time he’s looked or cheated. Id atleast seperate from him so you can evaluate your life and what you want and think you deserve. Remember the first time your a victim the second time you’re a volunteer. Good luck.
Ok he’s busted. Now what are you gonna do. If I may, have you two become stale in your relationship. Have you lost the excitement. Could he just be Curious? At any rate you two have a problem. I know that many are gonna tell you how bad he is and you should leave him. You two have 11 years together. Isn’t it worth finding out why he went there. If it is something you two can fix than isn’t worth it. Men who have been married for that long do not go there if things are good at home. I’m not excusing it, wanting you to stop and think. What I would do is figure out why, where it went wrong. Ask myself do I want to stay in this relationship. I feel i’m not expressing myself well here. You to need to talk for long while. hide yourselves at home no distractions. Just you and him and talk. I feel like not to much talking have been done here. I know you are hurt and shocked, I’m truly sorry for you. 11 years is a long time, My first marriage ended after 16 years.and now 14 years later and in my 2and and last marriage I know now that if the lines of communication and honesty had stayed intact I would still be in my first marriage. Has a man I will tell you he is looking for something, and he’s probably sleeping beside her every night. Good luck
He lied..you know it..I know it !
You should have played the game & dated him
This would have been the best bust ever
He’s a liar
Most men are
What are you going to do ?
11 year ? huh..that;s over a decade
Let him know you busted him & that if he continues it will be trouble
Is he good husband?
Pays bills ?
Not an alcoholic,,abuser..violent..druggie ?
If he is a good man ..give him a chance..but watch this man..let him know he got caught & you have both eyes on him
Watch out for signs for cheating
Go on line to find the signs
(weight loss,,change of dress,cologne )
Good luck with this fool
He is looking at other options.
ask him to delete the id