Posted on : 26-07-2010 | By : dianne | In : Online Dating
Why do people hate on people that use the personals ads on craigslist? I don’t use online dating, but I have looked at the personals in my city out of boredom and most of the guys are attractive.
So, why do people hate on it so much?
What’s so bad about it?
a lot of people view it as lazy, since you’re not making the effort of going out, looking your best, and socializing.
or that it’s for the "losers" of the world who can’t get "real life" girl/boyfriends, because they’re "ugly" or "unattractive".
I know others who think it’s creepy, and full of fiends, since practically every other day there’s a story on the news about a pedophile stalking kids’ myspaces.
Also, it’s kind of cowardly, because anyone can lie hiding behind a computer screen; nothing is certain on the internet, and there are millions of ways to change the way you act, look, or are. the young, witty and fit 23-year-old hottie you’ve been chatting with could actually be an overweight, zitty and bored 14-year-old girl posting pictures she saved from some random person’s facebook.
there’s really nothing wrong with it, I guess. If you happen to find someone who doesn’t lie and isn’t a sexual predator. but really, it’s more admirable to go out and start flirting at a club, or even the grocery store for christ’s sake. if you’ve got nothing to hide, then this shouldn’t be too hard. I met my girlfriend by going up to her in the middle of class and sitting on her desk. Not by writing on her facebook wall.
If you happen to find someone who means a lot to you via internet, then who f*cking cares what other people think? All that matters is you love each other, and it’s real. F*ck everyone else and more power to you.
sorry for the essay I wrote you here. hope I helped though (:
because it’s taboo and still not socially acceptable I guess
the problem I see is that people usually see online dating sites as being "meat markets" and nothing more then "hook up sites" or booty calls. Which you have to admit.. for the most part that’s pretty much true right?
Most online dating sites are all about singles and flings or having some sort of booty call hook up and usually nothing about actually "dating" …wouldn’t you say?
So there is the natural reason why society "hates" on the whole concept of online dating. Just think about it for a second or two. Most women out there are insanely jealous of usually one thing in their household… the computer. And that damned computer is usually responsible for their men trolling on forums and dating sites with alias accounts and fake names looking for some fling. Cheating is easier and easier in this technological age and it’s no wonder why most people will hate the online dating sites… it’s not directly their fault.. but the culprit of a failed relationship …wouldn’t you agree.
The problem lies with the user that generally signs up and creates an account on an online dating site. But can you blame em? I mean this is simply no different then dating 20 years ago when we would get all dressed up, and go to a club or out to the bar and go "trolling" for sex in a much different manner right?
Well the computer and the internet just puts you in touch with THOUSANDS of matches instead of the handful you only meet in person.. Plus you can do it so easily from your home it’s ridiculous how much sex you could have and how many hookups with the opposite sex could be had. I mean basically the only reason to hate the online dating thing is because it has broken up your own relationship the way I see it.
Instead of searching for fun or what many singles do online, is look for "dating" I think there are great sites that were really intended for meeting the "right person for the rest of your life" … and that’s so much more true now with the dating sites that actually use profiles and chemistry matching systems. Personally I think the best review type site I’ve come across is this one here —> http://everythingaboutlove.org/Chemistry.html
reason I would pick chemistry over any other is because of several reasons. eharmony is getting a lot of flack for their rejects… which are really nothing in particular other then some biased reasons. their system is flawed… that’s really the only way I see it to be honest.
match.com was a big one, but doesn’t really have a great system like chemistry.. and you’ll find amazingly enough that chemistry is match.com’s own site.. their partner site I think. Anyway.. it’s got some unusual chemistry profiling that really nails it so accurately that it’s scary. There’s also the duvey or duvrey system? I heard it’s not as good, but has some flaws.
If you want an online dating site that is completely committed to making sure their users are matched with chemistry and the best possible partner for you… that’s where chemistry pretty much won me over. It is more based on getting you to meeting the person quickly face to face like other sites do not. They just want your money for the longevity of having fun online instead of meeting the right person face to face and seeing if there is "chemistry" which really is the factor to successful relationships.
People will throw their opinions around because online dating might seem like an act of desperation to them or like it’s some sort of impersonal move. Only a loser would date online right? Because the only people that are out there are fat old disgusting middle aged men who live with their mothers and sign on their computers while living in the basement… right? That’s the stereotype that is given to this whole thing. And anyone that would seek love online has definitely got to be lame… right? See how the opinions can easily be formed about the whole thing?
Desperate people that can’t find a real date in person are the only type of people that would turn to the internet… isn’t that what most people everyday think? Absolutely true isn’t it! That’s what is so sad because the internet allows you to meet up with thousands of other singles who are all looking for the same thing, which is usually "the right person."
When you’re searching for the right person… and not really concerned much about "dating" for fun, or just going out on the town… that can make it frustrating if you’re going to the same locations and in your same local area you live in. The internet makes it possible to find people you could be perfectly matched for, but would never find in your entire life or ever even meet. The taboo about online dating is slowly starting to fade… but people out there still think of it as "desperate" or "lame" … and to them you just gotta ignore it.. I think only lame people think things are lame… that’s a true sign of someone who is lame themselves… when they start to label and criticize things because of their own inadequacies.
Wow this got long… sorry lol!
I researched this a lot for my sister and matter of factly.. she has married her "chemistry" match just this last June. I guess you can say that’s my proof and the reason I believe these dating sites are not the devil. It’s not for everyone, but it’s definitely not wrong or bad imo.
I see nothing wrong with it. Of course, all I got out of it was one night stands, but a couple of them had potential to be relationship material.
Online dating is a a desperation move to most people.
becuase many people don’t believe in online dating. people think you can’t find real love in the internet. but in my opinon, i believe love can be found anywhere(:
its not personal at all. its like your dating your computer
Maybe some people consider other’s desperate to use an on line dating site.
Desperation is not attractive to a lot of people.
I’m not sure…
Maybe it is because they have nothing better to do then go out places and hook up with people. Some people actually have things to do and don’t have time to sit around just waiting for Mr/Mrs. Right to come walking along and just maybe say HI!
Because they’re hateful people.
its nothing bad, all your doing is meeting single people and getting to know what kind of people they are, and even meeting up with them, and having the time of there lifes.
It shouldnt be a problem for people when its other peoples CHOICE, those people shouldn’t judge other people on there decisions cause their there own person
Because you never know what you’re going to get. I could use a computer to make myself look like Justin Timberlake. I tried online dating once, and the girl put up a picture of herself where she looked like a supermodel. In reality, she didn’t look anything like the picture. People can manipulate images and angles to make themselves look any way they want.
And the Craigslist personal ads are mostly just for sexs, which is why people make fun of anyone who uses them for dating.
It makes people seem desprate, but I dont find anything wrong with online dating as long as you agree to meet the person in real life. I did online dating, but now, I’m having wayyyyyyyyyyy more luck with guys in real life.
Personally, I would never date someone who I met online, and I’ll get into it why, but I don’t really care if other people choose to do so. I won’t "hate on them" for it.
I guess I look at it from a controversial perspective. It seems like technology is everywhere in our lives, and I’m beginning to think its a little too much. Whenever I hang out with my friends, they check their phones practically every minute texting back and fourth, zoning out the world around them. There is music in every bus and store I walk into…just to tune thoughts. You can survive without ever leaving your house. You can order your groceries online and any other necessities. You can rent a movie on netflix and have everything delivered with a press of a fingertip.
And now we’re doing this with finding love? I just don’t want eharmony to find someone completable for me based on what a computer says. I would so much rather talk to a million people and find one person that I have a strong connection with. You have to have a conversation with someone, share laughs and interests…its not something craigslist will ever be able to do.